In honor of Father's Day, I'm going to do something most women rarely do. Something I wish more moms took the time, and thought to do. Something I wish more moms would do, while taking a step back and putting their anger aside. I'm going to give a HUGE shout out to my ex. Because he deserves it. Yes, I want to honor this man, that I couldn't make a romantic relationship work with, for the fact that he never took our differences out on our son. Because of the love and commitment I see him put forth into being a dad, I admire him so much. It wasn't always rainbows and roses, in fact, it was pretty rough for a while. But over time, I have come to consider Devin one of my best friends. We have one very important thing in common, Gavin.
|Gavin and his Rad Dad|
He had one doozy of a life. An absent father that was never in his life, and a mother that passed away when he was 13, left him with little guidance. He was a wild child, and made a lot of mistakes. As far as a positive male role model goes, I guess you could say he didn't have one. But the day Gavin came into this world, he started turning his life around. He was not going to repeat the pattern or let history repeat itself. So the same went for he and I. When we split, he was a big part of breaking the cycle of those typical nasty relationships where people use their children as weapons. It took a lot of work, on both of our parts, but when we split, after both of us trying our butts off to make it work, in very short order both of us realized we didn't want it to be ugly. Those things are hard enough on their own without creating more complications for the other person. Neither of us needed that, but more importantly, neither did our son.
So this Father's Day, I want to give him props. Thank you for proving everyone wrong! Thank you for being such a good friend to Russ and I, and a good buddy/ family member to the other kids, and an AWESOME dad to Rad Dude. While our romantic relationship didn't work out, I'm still convinced I couldn't have picked a better dad for Gavin. And I couldn't have picked a better friend.
Happy Father's Day!